Ever since I was a little human I have looked at life and others through rose colored glasses.
Call me crazy, but I like to believe that people will always do the right thing, make the right choices and fight for the right causes.
I have the tendency to trust too much, forgive too easily, and overlook way to much. I believe what everyone tells me, accept half-assed excuses and forgive people who have mistreated me, all too often letting it slide when someone lies to me or insults me.
Yet even after all of that, I’m still that person who desperately wants to believe that every single person is capable of good; that somewhere deep down inside there is a sprinkle of goodness in all of us, and that everyone is trying to do and be their best.
Admittedly, it’s not that I can’t see any bad, I’ve just refused to allow the bad behavior of others to alter my view of life, even when there is strong evidence to prove otherwise.
Mostly because how I see them, affects me far more than it does them!
Looking at life through rose colored glasses can seem like a great strength or attribute. Yet many times it can also be our ultimate downfall, allowing people to walk all over us, time and time again giving them the benefit of the doubt and letting them off the hook, believing they didn’t mean to hurt us. We let a few good things we see overshadow all the hurt and disappointment when others let us down, brushing it off with “they just didn’t know any better”.
And sometimes, nothing could be further from the truth…
Seeing the best in people doesn’t mean we need to be naive. It just means we need to see the best “IN” them_ yet we still need to see them for what they are, and that isn’t always going to be a pretty picture.
Maybe it is true that everyone wants to be the best person they can be, but seeing someone’s potential is worthless unless they choose to step into it. Let’s face it, It takes hard work and a deep personal commitment to become our best self.
Most will get lost along the way, because going back to their familiar ways is so much easier. I’m learning that it’s actually okay to let those people in our lives go, especially when they’ve been given several chances time and time again.
Just because you see the good in them doesn’t mean they are good for you!
It is more important that you start surrounding yourself with positive people who also see the good in you and do things that also make you feel good!
So I’m going to continue to see the good in people, because that’s who I am. However, what I am no longer going to do is let it affect the way people treat me. I’m not going to let the people who hurt me, off the hook just because we’ve been friends for years or because I believe someone has the potential to be better.
And I hope you won’t either…
At the end of the day, you are worth more than that and need to fight for your own self-respect. Surround yourself with those people who pour as much love and respect into you as you do into them.
And certainly, keep seeing the good in others… then put yourself first and start looking for the good in yourself!
From the heart,